I learned that going out and having fun with friends every single weekend was not going to be part of our lifestyle together due to time restrictions, tiredness, etc. What's hard for us, is he doesn't understand why I gladly accept extra hours and work and community service projects, which sometimes impinge on the little time we do have to spend together. The Holy Ghost will testify that it is true. It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. I'd love to hear from more veterans about how to make this work in the long run. But I could make it very romantic indeed. You will join the church. And here's an excellent video on the importance of religious freedom.
I think you are all lucky to have such successful husbands, and I think in any marriage it is important to keep your own identity especially when you have children. We met when he started his General Surgery residency at the hospital where I was working as a nurse. Some say, they love wearing it, it gives them "protection from evil". My parents, siblings and grandparents are all active members; as am I. If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you. I got married so that we could build a life together.
And generally those people seem to have great difficulty in breaking off the relationship, even though they are told that it is a dead-end situation that will cause them big trouble in the future. Some mormon girls are closeted freaks as someone here has already said. In the long run, being married to a nonmember has made me a better person.
But the idea of marrying my husband felt right from almost the get-go and, my patriarchal blessing made so much more sense. It's not that she doesn't believe you right now, but it is a bone she will never drop. Because you are a good person, you will recognize the influence of the Holy Ghost and know that the church is true. The history of racism and violence is upsetting. And most of those end up with both people losing their faith or a divorce. I have always been a very active, outdoor person. We need to believe fully and then we make choices, not the other way around.