His job prevents you much access to him. Nor was there a lack of compassion or respect. Marriage is meant to be eternal.
Sometimes not even a quick text most of the time. She's a shell of her former self and it breaks by heart to this day. Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. Mormons are one of the few remaining groups with healthy women. Marriage is serious business and we are in it together despite our spouses shortcomings.
After skimming a lot of these comments it seems like many people have found that the most effective way of coping with their relationship with a doctor is to have low expectations or acknowledge that they will always be second. I appreciate my own space too, but it felt shitty to have this great time with him and not get so much as a text until we are making plans for next time. It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. My husband is a surgical oncologist. How could I help a non-Mormon spouse to feel like a member of my ward family when he is not a member of my church. Every aspect of me needs to meet his specifications.
We are indeed in two different places. Married men should not reach out to vulnerable women who buy their story of being lonely bc they are married to a woman who should have been a librarian. We need to believe fully and then we make choices, not the other way around. Because I have a husband that is not a member I have a quasi like status in the ward. I'm pointing this out because I don't know her and couldn't tell you what to expect. Mormons are one of the few remaining groups with healthy women. If she can't put you before her religion then you need to walk away. We started dating the summer before medical shool.